May 29 2022
"... you don`t have to wait for someone to treat you bad repeatedly. All it takes is once, and if they get away with it that once, if they know they can treat you like that, then it sets the pattern for the future." - Jane Green
My journey in the last year has been challanging and i had some hurdles to overcome and had to face my demons and some hard truths.
Leaving a relationship that i had many times tried to do before i always ended up right back. This was going to take all of my strength and accepting help for me to be stronger enough to actually staying away.
These were my steps in how i sucessfully left and managed to find my strength and do some soul searching and along the way find me again, some confidence and most of share my story and educate others.
“I realize now I am a survivor. I am a stronger woman for opening my eyes and stepping away from someone who didn`t respect themselves and would never respect me.” – Lori
My own personal steps that have got me to this point are:
- Leaving the relationship
- Having closure
- Removing my self away from friends and groups that he was in
- Reflection and what do i need
- Hearing some hard truths
- Signing up for counsling
- Finding me again and building my confidence
- sharing my story and turning the negative into postive
- Understanding my triggers
- Moving back home and starting fresh
- Reconnecting with friends and family
- Learning how i should be treated
- signing up for course with living with violence
- Joining a empowerment group for women
- Self care-yoga,gym
Im so dam proud of my self of how far i have got the sad part in this i have lost my relationship with my son and the bind we once had and this has to be the hardest part to my journey, my son has absorbed the toxic behaviour and had a great teacher and he has choosen to treat me in the same way and manner. If you are reading this and you are in realtionship that is not healthy and there are children trust me they are aware and picking up behaviours with out relizing you, the name calling and the constant threats, intimidation the list is endless get out it is domestic violence dont wait to be punched, stalked, run off the road, the insults in public get out now. The cuts and bruises go away the emotional and pyshcogical abuse lasts a life time.