My journey in the last year has been challanging and i had some hurdles to overcome and had to face my demons and some hard truths.

Leaving a relationship that i had many times tried to do before i always ended up right back. This was going to take all of my strength and accepting help for me to be stronger enough to actually staying away.

These were my steps in how i sucessfully left and managed to find my strength and do some soul searching and along the way find me again, some confidence and most of share my story and educate others.

My own personal steps that have got me to this point are:

1. Leaving the relationship
2. Having closure 
3. Removing my self away from friends and groups that he was in 
4. Reflection and what do i need
5. Hearing some hard truths 
6. Signing up for counsling 
7. Finding me again and building my confidence
8. sharing my story and turning the negative into postive
9. Understanding my triggers 
10. Moving back home and starting fresh 
11. Reconnecting with friends and family 
12. Learning how i should be treated 
13. signing up for course with living with violence 
14. Joining a empowerment group for women 
15. Self care-yoga,gym 

Im so dam proud of my self of how far i have got the sad part in this i have lost my relationship with my son and the bind we once had and this has to be the hardest part to my journey, my son has absorbed the toxic behaviour and had a great teacher and he has choosen to treat me in the same way and manner. If you are reading this and you are in realtionship that is not healthy and there are children trust me they are aware and picking up behaviours with out relizing you, the name calling and the constant threats, intimidation the list is endless get out it is domestic violence dont wait to be punched, stalked, run off the road, the insults in public get out now. The cuts and bruises go away the emotional and pyshcogical abuse lasts a life time.